Sample Tolerations:

  • No space for kids to play
  • Kids do homework on kitchen table, clutter
  • Outside gate is rusty
  • Gardening equipment is rusty
  • Sticky notes everywhere at work
  • The nasty fish tank that needs to be cleaned
  • Debt…never pay bills on time, harassing phone calls
  • Kitchen pans have Teflon peeling off
  • Not enough silverware when guest come to eat
  • Underwear is old
  • Toothbrush needs to be replaced
  • Unfiled papers
  • Aches and pains
  • Husband late from work
  • Traffic
  • Clothes that don’t fit
  • Boss patronizes you in meetings
  • Dog hair everywhere
  • Home office printer doesn’t work
  • Can never find a pen or pencil
  • Old, dingy kitchen floor
  • Unpaid taxes
  • Neighbors stopping by unannounced
  • Paperboy throws paper too far away
  • Hair dryer doesn’t dry fast enough
  • Never have food in the fridge
  • Lettuce doesn’t stay crispy
  • Not enough healthy snacks
  • Only a drop of milk in the carton
  • Always running out of bottled water
  • Moldy leftovers in the fridge
  • Hate writing and mailing bills
  • Bills coming at different or inconvenient times
  • Running out of money before the end of the month
  • Always running out of hairspray
  • Tired of shaving (need to wax instead)
  • Skin not clear

 

Lesson One:  Removing Energy Drains

Where do you get your energy? Energy sources are either healthy or unhealthy. And, without energy, it’s really tough to make changes. One of the best ways to sabotage yourself is by keeping your energy low.

I’d like to see you build sustainable energy from within. What would it be like to always have a steady flow of energy so you have the ummph to make it through your day without collapsing at night?

This week, I’d like you to pay attention to your energy zappers. Throughout the next three months, in this program, we will gradually upgrade your energy. Let’s begin this week by removing the energy drains. Next week, we will take a look at unhealthy energy sources, such as adrenaline, and how to get rid of it.

Please list out 25-50 “energy drains.” They are called “TOLERATIONS” in the coaching world…By tolerating, or putting up with something that does not work for you, you are depleting your energy…lessening your joy factor. An amazing life does not have many tolerations…A draining life is loaded with ‘em.
Print and carry Lesson 1 Worksheet with you all week and write down the tolerations as they pop up. Keep this list with you at home and work.

Remove at least 3 tolerations from your list by completely handling them.
I will check in on you via email in a few days to see how you are doing!

SAMPLE TOLERATION CATEGORIES

 

  • Home environment

  • Office environment

  • Technical Equipment - computers, kitchen aids, car

  • Problems hanging over your head - tax, accounting, health

  • People, relationships

  • Personal Products

  • Food, nutrition

  • Money - bills

  • Beauty, body, self care

  • Work

  • Personal characteristics - low confidence, shy, etc.

    For a list of common tolerations, check out the side bar on the left side of this page.

    Most of our tolerations can be found in our home environments, such as clutter, a spot on the rug, a lamp that does not work or an uncomfortable bed.

    I want you to notice everything that bugs you and write it down. Be specific.

    Here are a couple of tolerations and solutions:

  • Uncomfortable bed resulting is poor sleep - put new, comfy sheets on the bed or add a feather bed on top of the mattress for extra comfort.

  • Always hungry at work in the AM since no time to cook - begin waking up 15 minutes earlier and have quick breakfast at home — juice, a banana, muffins, etc. Make sure you have all breakfast items on hand each week. Stock up on juice and freeze some muffins. Or, keep granola bars on hand. What is easy for you?

  • Hate writing monthly bills - the solution is to automate your bill payment through a service such as PayMyBills.com, phone-in payments, or set up an automatic debit.

    See how easy this is?

    The trick here is to take each toleration very seriously. Give it some attention and come up with a solution.

    You’ll hear from me with a quick check-in note in a few days!


    Your coach,