Hi Kristin,

I’ve been hearing a lot about a new DVD and book called “The Secret.” It talks about the law of attraction.  I like the concept and I’ve noticed many of my coworkers talk about it at work, too.  I don’t think any of us really understand how to use it, though!  I see you’ve mentioned the law of attraction on your website.  What do you think about “The Secret” and do you have any client examples that might help me understand it better?  Do I simply think about whatever I want and then I’ll attract it?

Thank you in advance,

Anna

Hi Anna

I discovered the law of attraction nearly 10 years ago and I do believe it works.  The new movie, The Secret, does a good job of promoting the concept of “attraction” but it doesn’t tell you HOW to attract what you want. 

I use law of attraction principles with most of my clients.  I have loads of exercises and ideas for you.  It takes some time to master, to be honest.  The law of attraction (much like the law of gravity) is a law.  It just is.  This particular law states that we attract into our lives whatever we focus our energy on the most. Think of yourself like a magnet.  You pull people, jobs, ideas, and whatever you want TO you all the time.  You can also attract problems, crisis and dead-end jobs.  Some of it is good...and some of it is yucky, right?

So, the trick is to learn how to repel the yucky stuff and how to attract what you WANT.  In my experience as a coach, I’ve learned to spend a LOT of time helping people get very clear about what they want.  Then, I make sure their ‘want’ doesn’t conflict with any other goals.  If you want to be super-attractive, you must make sure your ‘wants’ are things you REALLY want and would LOVE to have in your life.

For example, one of my clients ‘wanted’ to double her personal training business and make more money.  She felt very stuck and had a hard time attracting clients as a result.  So, she hired me to help.

With a few questions, I also uncovered what she didn’t want...in relation to her goal.  She didn’t want to work more hours since it most likely meant opening up time slots in the evening which took time away from her kids.  So, in reality, she did NOT want to double her business, right?  No wonder it wasn’t happening!

When she thought about her goal of working more to increase her income, it brought up some bad feelings.  Not ideal! 

With the law of attraction, it’s VERY important to have positive feelings about whatever you want.  The FEELINGS fuel you in many ways and help magnetize (so to speak) your goals.

So, my job was to help her REALLY want something without any interference or conflicting goals. We talked about how to make more money without working so many hours.  I also asked her what else she REALLY wanted.  Her answer?  To only work mornings and early afternoons.  As her coach, I kept listening until I heard some major enthusiasm in her voice.  That was my clue she FELT great about her goal.

Eventually, we brainstormed a creative solution.  She designed a boot camp exercise group for the crack of dawn.  Every morning at 6 AM, she gathered a group of people and put them through their paces in a myriad of fun and challenging exercises.  Her group grew quickly and she attracted enough clients to double her income without working later hours.

My client was so excited about her boot camp since she loved the group format, the early morning hours and the unlimited income potential.  There wasn’t anything she didn’t WANT or LIKE about it.  See, that’s the trick!  Her passion allowed her to quickly put marketing materials together and spread the word.  The happy clients duplicated her efforts by telling their friends.  And so on, and so on.

If YOU want to use the law of attraction in your own life, make sure you are CLEAR about what you REALLY want.  If you feel excited about it and find yourself easily taking action to get what you want, you know you’re on the right track.

Then, simply take some sort of action and keep going.

The law of attraction helps you focus your efforts while removing resistance.  It is important to take action.  If you REALLY want something and you take inspired action, you will attract exactly what you need. 

Most people don’t have what they want since they have too much resistance to actually having it. You may not see that now in your own life, but it’s there. 

In my opinion, the law of attraction is helpful since it allows you to get crystal clear about what you DO want so you’re naturally inspired to do whatever it takes to make your goal a reality. 

Your coach,